Step #1: Feed Your Confidence Daily
If you were to go a whole day without eating, do you think you'd get
hungry? What if you stopped eating for a week? Do you think your body
would get weak? Yes, of course it would (to both questions).
Well, your self-confidence needs daily feeding too. You need
to "nourish" your confidence daily in order for it to grow healthy
and strong. It's not complicated, but you have to make an effort to
make it happen.
Listen to positive affirmations about yourself. Read self-development
books. Only associate with positive and supportive people. All these
activities will help feed your self-confidence and keep your mind
strong.
Step #2: Do The Things You Fear First
When you move towards what you fear, your confidence grows stronger
and stronger, but when you move away from what you fear, you let self-
doubt take the upper hand. Develop the habit of moving away from
things that make you uncertain, and you'll soon build a prison for
yourself--four invisible yet impenetrable walls forged of
doubtfulness.
No one can deny that our fears can sometimes be debilitating and
intimidating. They sometimes scare us so much we vow never to face
them. Unfortunately, when we do that, we let that fear control our
lives. In order to grow mentally strong and have complete control
over ourselves, we must face our fears head on. Even if we fail in
completing whatever task scared us, we still win by learning from our
mistake and now knowing what doesn't work. We simply must rethink our
strategy and try again.
Step #3: Keep Self-Promises
When you complete steps #1 and #2, you'll be making a written list of
promises to yourself. These promises are the easiest to break, but
they are by far the most important ones to keep. Why? Because the
very basic nature of confidence is trust. For example, would you
trust anyone who lied to you repeatedly? Of course you wouldn't!
Now, think for a moment and answer this question: Do you lie to
yourself? (Would you believe most people can't even answer that
question honestly?!)
Those who think they can get away with lying to themselves are
absolutely, positively mistaken. It can't be done. Self-perjury is,
always has been, and always will be, self-sabotage!
You know that gnawing sense of anxiety we've all felt at one time or
another (and which most people feel just about every day)? It's the
feeling that things are getting out of control. Do you know what that
really is? It's not a sign the world is spinning faster each day, nor
is it a symptom of global overcrowding. It's actually our minds' way
of punishing us for not keeping our word.
When you know deep down inside that you should be doing something,
and you're not doing it, you're lying to yourself. Before long, your
self-trust--your confidence--will begin to vanish, and that void will
quickly be filled with uncertainty and anxiety.
The good news is, it's simple to strengthen your self-trust. In fact,
it's something you can start to feel the powerful effects of by this
time tomorrow if you just decide it's something you must do.
Step #4: Focus on Progress, Not Perfection
Once you begin to keep self-promises, your next step to strengthen
your confidence is to forget about the whole concept of perfection.
It doesn't exist. My experience has taught me that chasing after
perfection is a futile as trying to find the pot of gold at the end
of the rainbow.
Perfection, like the end of the rainbow, is an illusion.
If your objective is to achieve perfection in any aspect of your life-
-your body, your relationships, your career--you can look forward to
a continual sense of deficiency, failure, and uncertainty.
On the other hand, if you learn to focus on progress--on things you
can actually measure--you'll have a growing sense of achievement and
an ever-strengthening level of confidence.
If you were to go a whole day without eating, do you think you'd get
hungry? What if you stopped eating for a week? Do you think your body
would get weak? Yes, of course it would (to both questions).
Well, your self-confidence needs daily feeding too. You need
to "nourish" your confidence daily in order for it to grow healthy
and strong. It's not complicated, but you have to make an effort to
make it happen.
Listen to positive affirmations about yourself. Read self-development
books. Only associate with positive and supportive people. All these
activities will help feed your self-confidence and keep your mind
strong.
Step #2: Do The Things You Fear First
When you move towards what you fear, your confidence grows stronger
and stronger, but when you move away from what you fear, you let self-
doubt take the upper hand. Develop the habit of moving away from
things that make you uncertain, and you'll soon build a prison for
yourself--four invisible yet impenetrable walls forged of
doubtfulness.
No one can deny that our fears can sometimes be debilitating and
intimidating. They sometimes scare us so much we vow never to face
them. Unfortunately, when we do that, we let that fear control our
lives. In order to grow mentally strong and have complete control
over ourselves, we must face our fears head on. Even if we fail in
completing whatever task scared us, we still win by learning from our
mistake and now knowing what doesn't work. We simply must rethink our
strategy and try again.
Step #3: Keep Self-Promises
When you complete steps #1 and #2, you'll be making a written list of
promises to yourself. These promises are the easiest to break, but
they are by far the most important ones to keep. Why? Because the
very basic nature of confidence is trust. For example, would you
trust anyone who lied to you repeatedly? Of course you wouldn't!
Now, think for a moment and answer this question: Do you lie to
yourself? (Would you believe most people can't even answer that
question honestly?!)
Those who think they can get away with lying to themselves are
absolutely, positively mistaken. It can't be done. Self-perjury is,
always has been, and always will be, self-sabotage!
You know that gnawing sense of anxiety we've all felt at one time or
another (and which most people feel just about every day)? It's the
feeling that things are getting out of control. Do you know what that
really is? It's not a sign the world is spinning faster each day, nor
is it a symptom of global overcrowding. It's actually our minds' way
of punishing us for not keeping our word.
When you know deep down inside that you should be doing something,
and you're not doing it, you're lying to yourself. Before long, your
self-trust--your confidence--will begin to vanish, and that void will
quickly be filled with uncertainty and anxiety.
The good news is, it's simple to strengthen your self-trust. In fact,
it's something you can start to feel the powerful effects of by this
time tomorrow if you just decide it's something you must do.
Step #4: Focus on Progress, Not Perfection
Once you begin to keep self-promises, your next step to strengthen
your confidence is to forget about the whole concept of perfection.
It doesn't exist. My experience has taught me that chasing after
perfection is a futile as trying to find the pot of gold at the end
of the rainbow.
Perfection, like the end of the rainbow, is an illusion.
If your objective is to achieve perfection in any aspect of your life-
-your body, your relationships, your career--you can look forward to
a continual sense of deficiency, failure, and uncertainty.
On the other hand, if you learn to focus on progress--on things you
can actually measure--you'll have a growing sense of achievement and
an ever-strengthening level of confidence.
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